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Leah Reich was one of the first internet advice columnists. Her column “Ask Leah” ran on IGN, where she gave advice to gamers for two and a half years. During the day, Leah is SlackвЂ™s user researcher, but her views here do not represent her employer. You can write to her at and read more How to be Human here.
After coming off a long-term relationship (think nearly a decade) I need to stay single for a while and rediscover myself. That said, good sex is something that I very much enjoy and am looking for. While I am looking for casual sex or friends with benefits right now, advertising this seems to degrade conversations to focus on just sex and I tend to be more attracted to personalities. So either I meet people who are just looking to get laid and the sex is mediocre because the emotional connection isnвЂ™t there or have a great connection and break hearts when I no longer want to hook up. I have also been in a wonderful relationship with an amazing woman in this time but I was struggling to find the space I needed for myself. And despite how good everything else was, I needed the space to find myself more.
Ultimately, IвЂ™m just frustrated. IвЂ™m learning a lot about myself and what I want.
I have tried to be as upfront with everyone as possible about where I am and what I am looking for, but I only seem to disappoint and hurt people.